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When a Child Freezes on Court
06 March 2026
There are moments in junior tennis that never appear on the scoreboard…
but every parent remembers them.
When a Child Freezes on Court
This happened during a match in a national tournament.
My child had played this opponent before and believed he knew what to expect.
But from the very first points something felt different.
The swing wasn’t there.
The timing disappeared.
Confidence slowly faded point by point.
From the outside it probably looked like just another match.
But inside that child something much deeper was happening.
It wasn’t just a difficult match.
It was a block.
And I believe this is where the biggest pressure sometimes begins.
When a child trains a lot, expectations begin to grow inside them.
If they worked hard… if they gave everything in practice…
in their mind it means that now it should show.
Now they should be able to do it.
But tennis does not always work that way.
Sometimes the expectations they place on themselves become heavier than the opponent across the net.
His body was on the court.
But his mind wasn’t there.
And anyone who has seen this moment knows how painful it is to watch.
Not because of the loss.
But because you see your child feeling helpless.
When we left the court, he didn’t say anything.
We got into the car and started driving home.
For a while there was silence.
And then the emotions came.
Not quiet tears.
Deep crying.
The kind that comes from frustration and helplessness.
So I pulled over, got out of the driver’s seat and moved next to him.
No advice.
No analysis.
No speeches about the next match.
Just a hug.
Because sometimes, for a child, that is everything.
In moments like this I realized something important.
Children don’t only learn how to win or lose through sport.
They learn that even when they freeze, even when nothing works the way they hoped, they are still safe.
They are still loved.
Their value is not defined by a match or a difficult day on court.
And maybe that is one of the most important lessons sport can give them.
As parents, our instinct is often to analyze everything immediately — the technique, the mistakes, the decisions.
But sometimes the most helpful thing we can do is simply stay next to them and let the emotions settle.
In that moment, I chose not to explain anything.
I chose to sit next to my child and let him know that whatever happened on that court, we would go through it together.
Because before children learn how to become stronger players, they first need to know they are not alone in their difficult moments.
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